There is a problem for those people who wish to quit smoking cigarettes. The problem stems from the addiction – and it is a problem of desire and definiteness of purpose.
The problem is this, we are told again and again: IN ORDER TO GIVE UP SMOKING CIGARETTES YOU MUST WANT TO!!!!
But there is a problem and an internal hypocrisy to this all-encompassing, slightly arrogant statement. And that is, if all people need to do is to desire giving up smoking properly in order to quit, then people would quit as and when they want and nobody would ever have any problem quitting!
Every smoker knows this to be true
There comes a time, maybe after two or three years after starting smoking, maybe a lot longer after, when a smoker starts to hate their habit.
They hate the necessity of having to purchase cigarettes, they hate the feeling in their lungs in the morning, they hate the coughs and colds, heck, they even hate smoking the things!
As this point smokers have a definiteness of purpose. They want to give up smoking.
Why then do we always read the experts saying: “in order to give up smoking you must have a desire to stop smoking.”
Because, what happens when a smoker reads this? What do they think?
“Oh, I’ve got to want to stop smoking properly in order to give up? Well, I thought I wanted to give up, that’s why I’m reading this. But, hang on, I’ve wanted to give up for years but never managed it successfully.
Help! What if I’ve never really wanted to give up? Then that’s why I’ve failed so far? I’m a failure! I don’t really want to give up! I want to smoke now!”
I’ve got some news for the experts (who’ve never smoked): MOST SMOKERS WANT TO STOP SMOKING!
Definiteness of Purpose
Don’t worry if you’ve tried to give up and not managed it on occasions. It doesn’t mean that your will-power isn’t up to the job, or that you’re weaker than everybody else, or that you secretly want to carry on killing yourself with nicotine.
It’s an addictive substance! That’s where the confusion comes from. Don’t worry about the clarity of your desire to stop smoking! You are reading this, therefore you want to give up smoking.
This is why I worry about hypnotists who say that you have to really want to give up smoking in order for the hypnotism to work. This is just a get-out clause in case their work isn’t good enough.
According to Napoleon Hill in Think and Grow Rich, the real winners of life have a clear and definite purpose of what they want and how they are going to get it.
In which case, we needn’t worry.
We know what we want and we know how to get it. We want to stop smoking cigarettes. We want to want to stop smoking cigarettes. And we will. It’s that easy.